"Don't compare yourself with others. Always be yourself clearly." This is the advice given by 24-year-old Yi Yangqianxi's father to him after he just won the title of "Best Actor".
This sentence is very simple, but it makes me feel very emotional.
In today's fast-paced society, how many people have lost themselves in comparisons with others and the expectations of society, forgetting their true selves? Is that why they live in confusion and exhaustion.
1、Why Have Many of Us Lost Ourselves?
1.1、The Pressure of Society
In the age of information explosion, we are surrounded by social media, advertisements, and success stories of others every day.
This external noise makes us unconsciously fall into comparisons: whose achievements are higher, whose life is more glamorous.
Over time, we are led by others' standards and values, gradually losing our own direction.
For instance, many people choose careers and lifestyles they don't like, or even change their personalities, to meet society's expectations. This "passive living" state makes us feel tired and empty.
1.2、 Inner Anxiety and Confusion
Comparison breeds anxiety. When we see others having what we don't, it's easy to think "I'm not good enough".
This anxiety makes us blindly follow others' footsteps, but forget to ask ourselves: "What do I truly want?"
The root of confusion lies in being bound by external definitions and ignoring our inner voice. We try to become "him" or "her", but forget that "I" am the protagonist of my life.
2、Only by "being yourself consciously" can you find happiness.
2.1、Recognize your own value
Everyone is unique.to be yourself consciously, you must first recognize your strengths, interests, and values. Try to ask yourself: "Putting aside others' evaluations, what do I truly love? What am I good at?"
The success of the "Best Actor" Yi Yangqianxi is no accident. It is precisely because he has always adhered to his love for art and has not been disturbed by the outside noise.
2.2、 Refuse meaningless comparisons
Focus on your own growth. Be brave to face yourself. I am who I am. Ask yourself: What do I have? What do I need? What can I get? Seek inner peace.
Try to record your progress every day, even if it is very small. Over time, you will find that you are becoming the person you want to be.
2.3、 Embrace the voice within
When you are confused, it is advisable to calm down and have a conversation with yourself. Through meditation, writing, or being alone, listen to your inner needs. Only when we truly understand ourselves can we resist external disturbances.
"Being conscious" is a state. It requires us to always maintain self-awareness and persistence in the complex world.
3、How to find your true self?
3.1、Reduce internal resistance and go with the flow
When we no longer live to please others, the conflicts and anxieties in our hearts will naturally decrease. You will find that you have more energy to pursue what is truly important.
3.2、 Accept yourself
Accept yourself, accept your shortcomings, accept your imperfections, listen to your inner voice. When you live as your true self, life will become simple and fulfilling.
Whether it's in your career, interpersonal relationships, or personal growth, everything will be done more effectively because of "being clear-headed".
Conclusion
In this era filled with temptations and comparisons, only by being true to oneself can one escape the state of anxiety and live a free life.
From today on, try to return to your inner self. Because the person who is most worthy of being is always yourself.