A truly enlightening picture: This is healing.
The true healing is: People allow everything to happen, including those things that you don't want to happen. Mr. Mo Yan （ Renowned writer） wrote in "The Late Bloomers": True strength is not about resistance, but about allowing things to occur.
Allow for regrets, stupidity, ugliness, hypocrisy, allow for giving without expecting anything in return.
When you allow all these things, you will gradually become a gentle, relaxed and expansive person.
Allow everything to be as it is. The natural original state is exactly what it is.
"Imagine this picture," you tightly hold the rope and then completely let go. There are two completely different states that occur.
- What we need is not "Don't hold tight because it will hurt", but to accept the pain of chapped skin even if you hold tight;
- What is needed is not "total liberation and then having nothing", but being able to enjoy oneself even if there is nothing at all.
"Permission" is the core keyword for healing, and it is equated with "acceptance".
Many sisters will say: "Permission is too difficult. I can't do it." Permission is not that hard. Here are 4 tips to share to help you achieve true healing:
1、 Believe in yourself
Believe that you have the ability to solve problems no matter what. Nothing can seriously affect me, so no matter what happens, I will not despair.
2、 Self-suggestion
I allow all existence. I am still striving to live a meaningful life and to be the shining version of myself! I am simply amazing! Within the limited emotions, I satisfy myself and do what I want to do.
Thinking this way makes me feel a bit better, although I still don't care about the outcome. However, constantly affirming myself during this process makes us have a lot of motivation most of the time and happily continue to pursue our goals。
3、Become an Observer
Imagine yourself as a character in a game. You are operating this character from a third-person perspective. Everything that happens to this character is a draft, pre-made animations, and all you need to know is that. So, everything is "known".
4、Starting from "the heart"
Healing can help us find a stable point and assist in restoring our energy.
True healing ultimately depends on the "heart" within us, our own "heart". To allow is to truly allow; this is one of the important roles of "mindfulness".