Recently, everyone was deeply moved by the podcast interview program featuring Lu Yu (a well-known host - podcast host) and Zhang Xiaohui (a columnist and fashion blogger - who used to be extravagant in spending and had debts of 200 million yuan in the past).
From these two truly "outstanding women", we see the clarity of perspective and the composure of mind after going through the vicissitudes of life. Their words are restrained, their thinking is clear, and their gaze is steady.
This once again astonishes me with the self-healing ability behind outstanding women.
For a period of time, you will clearly feel your own decline.
When you are in a low mood, feeling lonely and helpless, and even questioning the direction of your life, the world seems to remain unaffected - it continues to operate, celebrate and move forward day and night.
Your exes, those people you once hated, envied and couldn't let go of, are working hard to earn money, enjoying delicious food and seeking new partners.
And when you repeatedly recall the past, each of the people from the past actually didn't have time to wait for you.
This is a cruel but true awakening.
1、A True "Powerful Female Character": First, Grasp the Reality
Many people interpret "powerful female character" as glamorous, successful, and assertive.
However, a truly powerful female character is usually the one who can see the reality the earliest.
They understand:
- The world won't stop because of your pain
- Others' lives won't be responsible for your low points
- Emotions can collapse, but the direction cannot be lost
This kind of seeing reality is not coldness; it is the beginning of maturity.
Each of us needs to see the reality. Only by seeing the reality can you know what to do next.
2、The common trait among the people I admire is their willpower.
The people I truly admire, without exception, all possess an extremely strong will.
When it comes to matters that are truly important to them, they never waver in their goals and principles.
Whenever I see them making choices at critical moments, the certainty and self-control they display always elicits genuine admiration from me.
I have also repeatedly reminded myself:
Those who are weak will never achieve the life they truly desire.To get close to happiness, one must have a heart that can withstand trials.
Therefore, when you feel a bit hesitant on the path ahead, think of them.
3、When you are not strong enough, allow yourself to temporarily hide.
The powerful female characters do not always stand in the spotlight forever.
On the contrary, they are very clear about when to step back.
If you are not strong enough at this moment, then allow yourself to temporarily hide:
- Accumulate skills in places where no one knows
- Repair your inner self during days when you are not being noticed
- Make real changes in silence
Then, when you are truly ready, go towards your own stage.
Behind excellence lies long-term self-discipline.
4、It's not that there is no water; it's just that you haven't dug deep enough.
Often, we attribute stagnation to "bad luck" or "the right time hasn't come yet".
But a more honest answer is usually:
It's not that there is no water in the well; it's just that you haven't dug deep enough.
The problem never lies in the fact that success comes slowly; rather, it lies in whether you are willing to keep making continuous efforts for it.
True growth is never achieved in one step; instead, it is about continuously rooting down each time.
Tomorrow is beautiful, but you must get through today first.
5、Those seemingly wasted moments actually have other purposes.
Throughout life, there will be times when you feel:
- Everything is stagnant
- Your efforts yield no results
- Time is being wasted in vain
At the same time, there will also be some unpleasant events that you are powerless to change.These moments will force you to stop and think:
What kind of person do I want to become?
Later, you will understand:
When you shine in the future, you should thank these difficult times.
Because of them, your endurance, judgment, and sense of boundaries have been reshaped.
6、A winding path often leads to the true destination.
One day, when you finally reach the place you originally intended to go along a route that is not perfect and even full of deviations, you will suddenly realize:
All the experiences you went through were necessary steps.
Even if you missed just one step, you couldn't have become the version of yourself you are today.
Growth is never a straight line; it is constantly being corrected.
Just like the stocks you invest in the stock market.
When you finally wait for the market to reverse and rise,
you will find -
The decisions to quietly accumulate strength at the bottom and even increase your position were so wise.
But if you can't endure the deepest darkness before dawn,
if you choose to liquidate and exit when the fluctuations are the most intense,
then even if the direction is correct,
you will never be able to reach the destination.
7、What truly awakens a person is never advice.
No single piece of advice can make someone suddenly understand.
What truly enables one to see human nature and one's own limits is personal experience:
- Struggles
- Regret
- Loss
- Injury
These experiences will eventually wake you up from your illusions.
8、Slowness is the most underestimated ability of the leading female character.
All the beautiful things in the world require time to mature.
A person must first establish:
- Stable patience
- The foundation of not giving up easily
Only then can one truly achieve "speed".
Only by taking it slowly can one go far enough.
9、Choice inherently means bearing the burden.
In this world, there are no choices without pain.
No matter which path you choose, you must bear the regret that another possibility might bring.
This is truly depressing.
But the clarity of the leading female character lies in:
Since you have made the choice, do your best.
Ultimately, you will find that the gains will, in some aspects, exceed the cost you have paid.
Conclusion: The powerful female character is the one who rebuilds from the ruins.
The true powerful female character is not someone who has never fallen.
Rather, even when in decline, they never give up growing.
They allow for low points and respect time;
They accumulate strength in silence and, at the right time, re-enter the world.
This is not luck; it is the result of a combination of clarity and resilience.
And you, I, should all be on this path.
