I really like what Ye Shu wrote in "My First Half of Life":
The person I admire the most is myself.
Only I can help myself climb over mountains and overcome one difficulty after another.
Everyone will go through such a dark period in life - either financial hardship, emotional betrayal, or professional failure.
That deep-seated helplessness can break one's spirit. One will subconsciously want to seek help from the outside world, but contrary to expectations, only you yourself can truly help you get out of the predicament.
When one is in a low point, the best choice is to remain silent, not to run away, and not to seek company.
1、Don't Complain
Comedian Guo Degang Guo Degang once said: Don't pour out your troubles to everyone. People's hearts are unpredictable.
Those who laugh at you will always outnumber those who care about you. Just like the sea knows its depth and breadth, human hearts are difficult to fathom.
When you keep complaining everywhere, people will treat you as a joke; when you cry out in pain desperately, there will be people waiting to take advantage of you.
I have heard a saying: When the words you want to express are about to spill out of your mouth, but the moment you hold those words back, you become an adult.
Instead of wasting time on meaningless venting, it's better to learn to be silent.
It gives you more time to think about the problem and find solutions. When you learn to keep your troubles hidden in your heart and face them alone, you will find that you are stronger than you imagined.
2、Don't run away.
Avoidance may allow us to temporarily retreat into a cozy haven of comfort, but those unresolved issues will eventually become increasingly tight shackles in our hearts.
The best way to solve problems is to confront them directly.
Under the dim light of the night, in the wrinkled exhaustion of your face, there lies the stubbornness of the stars that remain awake.
Wounds will scab over to become shields, tears will nourish flowers, and those shattered moonbeams will eventually be picked up by you one by one, pieced together to form the river of dawn.
The road ahead is difficult, but I can still walk. Compared to growing up in the sun, I prefer to try to turn the situation around against the wind.
3、Don't follow the crowd
Some paths are meant to be traveled alone, and some obstacles can only be overcome by oneself.
In "The Ferryman", there is such a sentence: If fate is a lonely river, who will be the ferryman of your soul? The answer is: yourself.
Even in a world that is noisy, one's heart should learn to be quiet;
even in a crowded crowd, one should reserve a space for solitude.
When you understand to seek within for everything, you can start the battle to break through in life.
Life may not always be perfect, but we can choose to face it with a non-complaining, non-running-away, and non-joining-in attitude.
Swallow your complaints, bear your grievances, and endure the trials of fate. You will find that the wounds you have suffered will eventually become the medals of your life.
