The most effective way for a woman to maintain good health is simply - "abstain".
This "cutting off" is not about cutting away things or people as in the concept of "de-cluttering", but rather cutting off useless thoughts.
In psychology, there is a term called "rumination", which means that just like a cow chewing grass repeatedly, people will repeatedly dwell on past pain.
- You think you are recalling the past, but in fact, you are just wasting your energy internally.
- You think you are planning, but in fact you are just anxious.
- You think you are reflecting, but in fact you are torturing yourself.
Many women feel physically exhausted, emotionally disturbed and have short sleep durations not because of poor physical condition, but because they think too much.
True physical and mental rejuvenation does not come from making chicken soup or soaking feet, but rather starts with clearing out those unnecessary thoughts from the mind.
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"Cut off" the past, prevent losses.
In many people's hearts, there is a "regretful version" of themselves.
"If I hadn't said that sentence, we wouldn't have split up."
"If I had chosen a different path when changing jobs that year, things might be very different now."
It sounds like reflection, but in fact, it is self-punishment.
While you are thinking of letting go, you can't help but look back. You are not willing to accept it, you are not satisfied, you think "If only at that time..." But you should know: This train of life has no return ticket.
You can go back in your emotions, but not in the scenes;
What you need to do is not "figure it out", but "let go". The past is no longer worth your sacrificing your body to bear.
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"Cut off" about the future. Self-rescue.
Do you often say things like this:
"What if I quit my job and can't find another one?"
"What if I get married and suffer like my mother did?"
"What if I fail, and everyone will laugh at me?"
These "what ifs" form a huge emotional net, trapping you.
In fact, most of the things you worry about - will never actually happen.
Psychological experiments show that 90% of our worries never come true.
But in the process of "predicting pain", we prematurely deplete our health, sleep and mood.
The truly wise women never break down in advance.
What they practiced was: not worrying about the future, but being responsible for the present.
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"Cut off" others' affairs. Setting boundaries.
A woman's heart is always tender.
- Seeing someone get hurt, one feels pain;
- seeing someone's unhappy marriage, one wonders "What should she do";
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even upon receiving a negative news, one may be depressed for the whole day.
It's not that you are weak, but that you haven't set a clear mental boundary.
In psychology, there is a term called "topic separation", which means: Everyone only needs to be responsible for their own emotions and choices.
Excessive empathy that crosses boundaries actually represents a mental burden.
You are not someone else's savior, nor do you have to be responsible for others' lives.
When you take on others' tasks on your own shoulders, your vitality is gradually being depleted.
Women who are not self-consuming always know how to respect others' destinies and also protect their own emotions.
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"Cut off" the things that cannot be achieved. Put an end to the absurd.
After reaching the age of 30, one is always dragged forward by a sense of anxiety:
- "Is not getting married the wrong choice?"
- "Is not buying a house the failure?"
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"Everyone else earns a million dollars a year. Am I lagging far behind?" ......
Every day, I scroll through the information stream, being "manipulated" by others' glamorous personas, and regarding "impossible" tasks as "must-do" KPIs.
You set your goals too far away, but your mood is getting increasingly depressed.
You work very hard, but you are punishing yourself with unmatching standards.
We should understand this principle:
- What is out of reach, don't force yourself;
- what is within reach, do your best.
There has never been anything in this world that one is forced to do just because it is impossible.
All that is needed is: Have you truly listened to and followed your own inner self at this moment?