After the pandemic, I began to live inwardly.
The year the pandemic occurred, life was forced to hit the pause button.
The world's pace suddenly slowed down, many previously taken-for-granted orders were disrupted, and people were also forced to be alone with themselves.
It was also in that year that I entered the stock market.
Looking back, it almost became a watershed in my life.
1、When I said goodbye to the hustle and bustle, life became clearer.
During that period, I gradually stopped attending frequent gatherings and social events.
I no longer participated in various activities and no longer filled each day with "busyness".
Instead, I spent long periods of time alone:
listening to lectures, reading books, taking notes, and reviewing, gradually entering the rhythm of thinking.
When life truly became quiet, I realized that many seemingly lively times in the past did not leave me with much of anything truly meaningful.
Those travels, social engagements, and the arranged pleasures were more like an avoidance of emptiness.
Schopenhauer once said, "Either engage in vulgar social interactions or be alone."
Human life is limited in terms of time and energy.
- One can choose the vulgarity brought by social interactions,
- or choose the loneliness brought by solitude.
2、Entering the stock market is actually entering the realm of thinking.
When many people talk about the stock market, their first reaction is about risks, wins and losses, and the outcome.
But for me, that period was more like a continuous learning process.
I began to systematically acquire knowledge, understand the rules, confront uncertainties, and also face the consequences of judgment errors.
You must be responsible for your own choices. No one will bail you out.
This made me realize for the first time in a very clear way:
Many moments in life are actually like the stock market -
- There are no definite answers;
- there is only the ability to make choices in uncertainty.
3、We used to just be pushed along by time.
And during this process, I suddenly realized a fact:
For many years in the past, we were just being pushed forward by time.
Constantly chasing, constantly comparing, constantly setting the next goal.
Desiring more, desiring a "better" life, but rarely truly stopping to think:
Is what I'm currently living really what I want?
When I first allowed myself to slow down, I discovered that we had already become accustomed to losing the ability to think while running.
The philosopher Pascal once said: "Almost all of our pain stems from being unable to stay alone in a room."
True high-quality solitude is not escaping the world
It is through solitude that one continuously grows inwardly - by concentrating on research; improving skills; nourishing one's mind and spirit.
A true leading lady never needs to strive to prove herself
4、True self-healing is about allowing
to slow down and calm yourself down. Unconsciously, you will start to think:
Life is not completely under your control just by exerting effort.
- Life is half about striving hard,
- and the other half is about learning to accept the arrangement of fate.
True self-healing is not about making everything better.
Rather, it is that you finally allow -
that some things just won't go as you wish.
- Allowing for the existence of regrets,
- allowing for efforts to go unrewarded,
- allowing life to temporarily stand still at a certain stage.
When you no longer fight against reality, your inner self begins to relax.
You are not giving up; you are just no longer harming yourself through the way of confrontation.
5、To reconcile with oneself and also with the world
It was from that time that I gradually learned to reconcile with myself.
No longer rushing to prove things,
no longer clinging to outcomes, no longer forcing life to unfold as expected.
True meditation is not an escape from reality,
but an inner strength -It enables one to remain clear-headed and composed when facing the ups and downs of life.
When a person is willing to stand on the same side as oneself,
the pressure of the world no longer sounds so harsh.
Perhaps, growth is not about constantly expanding outward,
but finally learning to live inwardly.
Conclusion: People in our era are too good at running.
They keep moving forward and chasing constantly, but rarely truly stop.
What is truly necessary, however, is:
During the running process, allow yourself to pause,
Give space to the mind and an outlet for emotions,
Listen to the true feelings within.
When the tension is released, the body and spirit can truly be restored;
When the external noise fades away, the soul becomes broader and more open-minded.
At this point, I suddenly thought of Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich".
Perhaps, more important than "keep moving forward" is to first ask yourself -
Should I stop and think first?
-------Extended Reading and Resources
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I read this book ten years ago.
At that time, my understanding was limited and I didn't have the time to delve deeper.
When I read it again many years later, I gained a deeper understanding of the statements in the book:
"Your willpower is the force that determines your success or failure."
"Being conquered by temporary setbacks and giving up easily."
Success and failure lie in whether you "persist continuously and keep moving forward."
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