Life doesn't have to be complete.
"The most taboo thing in life is perfection, some people have a bad marriage, but their children are very good, some people have a good marriage, but their health may not be very good, because the heaven is full, it will decline."- from《People's Daily》.
The Buddha said, "Apart from the suffering of birth, old age, sickness and death, many other kinds of suffering are self-created, and because of ignorance and misperception, what one says or does often brings suffering to oneself and others."
In fact, most people's pain comes from the inner dissatisfaction, from the inner "greed, jealousy, hatred" and so on.
We often forget that we came to this world naked, only to live for more than 30,000 days, and when we leave for decades, we still can't take anything away, so why not live happily, but let ourselves live in pain?
No one really has nothing, when he has no money, he at least has health, when he has no health, at least he has life.
Inamori Kazuo said a word: "As long as alive, be grateful."
The reason why we are miserable is often because we envy what others have, but we do not have, we are too focused on what we do not have, and ignore the part of we own ourselves.
Mr. Yang Jiang said: "When you stand on the steps and look up, don't forget that there are still people looking up at you."
A blind man says he is happy when his eyes can see; a man who has lost his feet says he is happy when he has two feet; a man with sound feet says he is happy when he has a pair of shoes; a man with a pair of broken shoes says he is happy when he has a new pair of shoes.
Everyone has the ability to be happy, depends on what you focus on, focus on what you have, then you will always be grateful for what you have, and you will always be happy.
And the reality is often such a phenomenon: only gave birth to a daughter, but also want a son, have both a son and a daughter, and want to become a millionaire, being a millionaire, and want to have prestige and status.
You suffer when you don't get it, and you take it for granted when you get it.
In fact, all the gains need to be exchanged with another kind of loss. The best state of life is to seek lack and not to be full, when you are about to be full, it means to begin to lose.
When you do not have a happy family, you may have enviable wealth, when you do not have wealth, you may have a harmonious and happy family, when your career fails, you may have a pair of healthy children.
So, to live is to be thankful, grateful for the part that we have, when a person no longer focuses on the part that is missing, but only to see the part that they have, his life will be happy.
"If it's what you're meant to have, you'll have it. Don't force it when it's not."
If you can get it by your own efforts, then try to get it, if you can't get it, then let it go.
The greatest lucidity of middle age is: "time, luck, fate. If I get it, I am lucky, if I lose it, It is my desnity.”