The author of 《The Courage to Be Rich》, Onanduo, is a renowned spiritual mentor and is hailed as the navigator of spiritual growth.
At the age of 29, she became a well-known lawyer and publisher in the UK. However, due to her inner tension and stress, she suddenly ran away from home and lived in India for over 30 years.
Throughout this period, she continued to pursue her personal growth. Later, she wrote books and gave lectures, traveling around the world. Reading her book not only enriches one's wealth, but also heals the soul, enables self-improvement, embraces freedom, and brings out the full potential of life...
01. Successful people fully accept everything they encounter in life, accept all their imperfections, and view the world and each present moment from a responsible perspective.
Total acceptance means allowing life to truly manifest in our hearts.
Pain is no longer an enemy that needs to be eliminated; instead, it is the sound of awakening.
Regret is no longer a gap in life, but rather a crevice through which light shines in.
Imperfection is no longer a reason for self-denial; instead, it is a unique signature.
The way you accept the world is precisely the channel through which the world gives you its gifts.
The lack of completeness itself is a form of completeness: the Venus with a broken arm, the cracked pottery - instead of being "defective", they achieve unique vitality due to their imperfections.
setbacks are no longer stumbling blocks but rather coordinates for adjusting one's direction.
02. Those who look outward are dreaming; only those who explore within are truly awake.
This is a sentence said by Jung.
When we look outward and chase fame and fortune, we are controlled by things we are unaware of. Psychologists call this "the subconscious".
Why do people repeatedly make the same mistake? Why do they repeatedly fall into the same emotional predicament? The reasons lie in the subconscious. The path you take is chosen by your subconscious.The people you meet are those you have summoned.
The positive part of the subconscious mind will lead us towards our goals. Its negative part, however, can cause us to stray from the right path.
By delving inward, one can gain a clear understanding of oneself and discover the inner strength within. Just like Socrates said: "Know yourself."
So how do you know yourself? It all depends on the word - "awareness".
Be aware of your thoughts, be aware of your emotions, be aware of every thought that arises.
When you can clearly see your thinking patterns, emotional patterns, and behavioral patterns, and when you get used to examining the inner self of your little self, change has already begun.
Therefore, true awakening begins with an examination of one's own inner self.
One must not follow the crowd; only then can one truly shine as one's own light.
03. Let me tell you the bigger truth - parents have carried their own burdens, or perhaps they weren't properly loved when they were young, so they don't know how to give and have no way to give. But they are still the parents who gave you life, and this is a fact. They have given all that they could give.
The way our parents raised us was based on their understanding and experiences of that era. Although it might not have been perfect, it was all they had and it contained their boundless love.
We should be filled with gratitude for the gifts given by our parents, because it is they who brought us into this world - and this is an unchangeable fact.
For those things that parents cannot provide or that have brought us so-called "pain or harm", we should not complain or blame. Instead, we should learn to reconcile and be tolerant.
If you keep complaining, it will only make you less mature.
If you want to become mature, you need to accept them, understand them, thank them and love them. Then, carve out your own path of life wealth, and avoid repeating their life patterns.
In conclusion, we should allow everything to happen. Allow yourself to be yourself, and also allow others to be who they are.
Just as psychologist Karen Horney said: "Everyone is a product of their own era, but the awakened ones can choose to no longer be prisoners of the past."
04. When we feel that we lack support and have to do everything by ourselves, feeling very tired and struggling a lot, this indicates that you consider yourself too important. Without you, the world wouldn't have changed at all.
In this world, without anyone, the earth still keeps spinning. Our society won't come to a halt because of someone's departure. So, don't think you are so important.
Don't always care about what others think. Don't take on all the responsibilities by yourself. Live your own life instead.
When you can view gains and losses, honor and disgrace, right and wrong, success and failure more calmly and lightly, you will no longer be obsessed with small matters or hold grudges; you will no longer be preoccupied with getting and losing, hesitant or indecisive.
Life is actually quite simple. What's complicated is the human heart. Too much pain is something we have brought upon ourselves.
Many times, the way others perceive you is not as important as you think.
All your stress is because you want too much; All your pain is because you are too serious.
When something doesn't go as you wish, it's just a reminder that it's time to make a turn.